1. Actually, there is similar option for this. If user does not want to load previous setting, then user can start OleLoad GUI from start->run->type "oleload no-file.amj"-> click OK. This will popup a window saying something similar to "Oleload cannot find no-file.amj". Press OK and OleLoad will start with no previous connection.
2. There should not be any crashing. Let us know instances when this is happening. Can you help us recreate such cases.